Marriage is like a personalized parable of the kingdom of heaven.
In a marriage - they should be more on the side of each other’s future than each other’s present. Which is why the greatest investment in each other’s souls.
- savor the sex
- savor the friendship
- savor the mutuality of all the life
Ancient Hebrew Marriage Tradition
In ancient Hebrew marriage traditions, yes, the groom would typically bring his wife to live within his father’s extended household.
Here’s how it generally worked:
- Betrothal and Preparation: After the betrothal agreement, the groom would return to his father’s house to prepare living accommodations, often by adding a new room or dwelling onto the existing family complex (known as an insula).
- The Return for the Bride: Once the preparations were complete and the groom’s father gave his approval, the groom would go to the bride’s home, usually at night, with a celebratory procession, and bring her to his father’s house.
- Living with Extended Family: The newly married couple would then reside in the living space the groom had prepared within his father’s household, living and working alongside the extended family.
This practice of patrilocal residence, where the married couple lives with or near the husband’s parents, was common in the ancient Middle East. It facilitated family unity, shared resources, and helped maintain the patrilineal lineage, where inheritance and descent are traced through the male line
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Marriage Covenant |
the father pays for the bride and establishes the marriage covenant |
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Bridal Chamber |
the son returns to his father’s house and prepares the bridal chamber
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Bride Fetched |
at a time determined by the father (Mat 24:36) the groom fetches the bride to bring her to his father’s house. “Although the bride was expecting her groom to come for her, she did not know the time of his coming. As a result, the groom’s arrival was preceded by a shout, which forewarned the bride to be prepared for his coming |
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Bride Cleansed |
the bride undergoes ritual cleansing prior to the wedding ceremony |
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wedding ceremony |
the private wedding ceremony |
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consummation |
in the privacy of the bridal chamber the bride and groom consummate the marriage |
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marriage feast |
the celebratory marriage feast to which many are invited |
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How it Relates to God
When God wanted to RELATE himself to mankind and the rest of his creation, he started with a couple.
The key word is relate because we are the only part of creation that can relate to him. (Rev 4:8)
The picture of marriage is an important image that God has given us, calling us to a higher understanding of who he is and how he relates to us
How are we to understand God, the almighty and infinite one? God gives us pictures. And, in this case, we are the picture. So, wherever we find ourselves today, in our marriages, in other relationships, or in our individual lives in general, may we ever strive to accurately bear the image of God to the world
Romans 1:20
For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood from His WORKMANSHIP, so that men are without excuse.
- WORKMANSHIP = poeima it’s where we get the word poem from - and it’s only used 2 times in the Bible
Ephesians 2:10
For we are God’s WORKMANSHIP, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance as our way of life.
- we are poems
Let’s say someone wrote down a poem on a piece of paper. This poem exists on the piece of paper. But when did the poem start to exist?
Jeremiah 1:5
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
Sex
Conjugal rights refer to the rights and privileges associated with the marital relationship, including companionship, affection, sexual relations, and mutual support
Passages
- Genesis 2:18
- 1 Corinthians 7:29,34-35
Intro
- marriage consist of a man and a woman
- adam was created first then eve
Let’s Look into Why Good Created Eve
Genesis 2:18
- He did not say, “Adam is unhappy, so let’s give him a suitable helper”
- clearly won’t find happiness in marriage, because we are already “happy”, that is before the fall of Man which distorted everything that God has made Good.
- another example i like to parallel: you can be fulfilled in what you do at work, but you won’t find happiness in it
- help him do what?
- what was Adam suppose to do BEFORE Eve entered the scene?
- Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth
- Do not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil
- God sets this all up both to:
- give man fulfilment and satisfaction
- give Him the most Glory
- 1 Corinthians 10:31 - So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God
- what was Adam suppose to do AFTER Eve entered the scene?
- same thing
- what was Adam suppose to do BEFORE Eve entered the scene?
This is reiterated in Paul’s letter to the Corinthians
1 Corinthians 7:29,34-35
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29 - What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not;
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34 - an unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit
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whether we are married or not, we are to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit (our whole life)
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Not so far off The Greatest Commandment
- Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength
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35 - I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord