Imagine you’re talking to the creator of the universe - before bith - and pick the person you get to become
You say I want to become the most courageous. The creator replies and says, well, then I’ll give you monsters to terrify you so that you can conquer them
then you say I want to be patient. Then I will make you work harder and longer so you can learn to wait.
I want to be wise. and the creator replies, then I will give you failures that will crush your spirit. So you can learn the value of judgement.
You then say, sonds like a rough life. Can you give me a good life? Creator replies, just like we measure the quality of a blacksmith by the strength of his steel. I measure you by what you are at the end. Not the fire and the hammer it took to make you.
A good life isn’t a life that’s easy - a good life is a life that makes you into a good person. And that my son is a hard life.